EDIT - never mind, I've been corrected
EDIT - never mind, I've been corrected
Last edited by Kieran_Frost; 05-07-2016 at 07:26 AM.
"We are Shakespeare. We are Michelangelo. We are Tchaikovsky. We are Turing. We are Mercury. We are Wilde. We are Lincoln, Lorca, Leonardo da Vinci. We are Alexander the Great. We are Fredrick the Great. We are Rustin. We are Addams. We are Marsha! Marsha Marsha Marsha! We so generous, we DeGeneres. We are Ziggy Stardust hooked to the silver screen. Controversially we are Malcolm X. We are Plato. We are Aristotle. We are RuPaul, god dammit! And yes, we are Woolf."
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Thank you. Thank you for directly addressing me in reply as well. I think it's important for everyone to be aware of the words they use.
Imo, he's not on his high horse.
He's calling things on how he sees them, directly in this thread, and he's pointing out how horribly offensive the word "breeder" is to some.
And, honestly, it IS offensive.
As I said above, we all need to be more aware of what we are saying. Especially online.
People need to take responsibility for the words they use. And if they say something offensive, or use a word incorrectly, they should own that.
I don't think men can easily see how offensive the word "breeder" is.
We live in a patriarchal society where misogyny and sexism have the strongest grip.
These "characteristics" run so deep in our society, and they are so inherent, practically innate, that we don't even recognize how damaging they are, and how they drag people down.
I am pretty sure when/if any of you used the term "breeder" you did not go out with the intent of being hateful about women. But if someone called me a breeder, I'd have to probably bite my tongue not to snap on that person.
It is a term that devalues women. I am speaking from a female perspective, as I am not male, and I do not identify that way.
To borrow something I said to a friend yesterday:
When we make jokes about misogyny, it only serves to further perpetuate misogyny.
Same with racist jokes and jokes about sexuality.
The jokes are not funny. They're disrespectful, demeaning, and diminishing. And they're never really okay.
"All it takes for sexism to prosper is for good men to see nothing."
But it's all about context. In the context of how I talk to my friends, I can say what I want. I wouldn't just randomly call someone a breeder or anything else for that matter, nor would my friend be homophobic to anyone else, we just rip on each other because that's what friends do. No one was being hateful. Context is key.
t hedge coke specifically called me out over it, which I have taken offence to, because I find it completely irrational to a) tell me how I can and can't speak to my friends and b) because t hedge uses the word queer all the time, despite my constant comments that I cannot stand that word and find it offensive, yet I have never called anyone out personally for using it, and have always accepted the context that it was used in and the regional differences.
Why is it that we can point fingers at one person for one thing, yet completely ignore it the other way round?
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"We are Shakespeare. We are Michelangelo. We are Tchaikovsky. We are Turing. We are Mercury. We are Wilde. We are Lincoln, Lorca, Leonardo da Vinci. We are Alexander the Great. We are Fredrick the Great. We are Rustin. We are Addams. We are Marsha! Marsha Marsha Marsha! We so generous, we DeGeneres. We are Ziggy Stardust hooked to the silver screen. Controversially we are Malcolm X. We are Plato. We are Aristotle. We are RuPaul, god dammit! And yes, we are Woolf."
legion_quest, I'm not telling you how you can talk with your friends. I am saying you're still using an ugly word between you and your friend, for laughs. Apparently more than one. I don't care if they're racial epithets or ones rooted in sexuality, how you two talk amongst you is your business, but it's as open to criticism as anything.
And, you do make a point about "queer," quite often, so please don't pretend you don't.
I'm sorry if you feel you can dole out criticism to others but no one should be able to criticize you or your choices, but that's how life works. We agree, often, on a lot of things. On some things, particularly it seems, appropriate language, we disagree. And, neither one of us has been a stranger about voicing that.
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Here's the thing about words used, historically and/or presently, against a specific group of people: that group gets to 1) decide how/if they want to use, or not use it, both personally and within their community, and debate that within the group with members they disagree with, and 2) decide whether or not they want people not within the group to use the word.
We all have our own views, for instance, on "queer," and because we're LGBT+, we get to debate that, decide how we want to use it ourselves, and have the authority to tell cisgender and heterosexual people whether or not we think it's okay for them to use the word.
Now, to Cold Water's comments:
Even if "breeder" is not intended to be specifically against women, it's still a term used by some to describe straight people, which includes straight women. Cold Water is a woman, telling us-- many of whom are not women, including myself-- not to use the term. So I can't speak for all of you, but I personally will not ever use it having heard her opinions on this.
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.
The brave may not live forever, but the cautious do not live at all."
He/him/his pronouns.
Agreed, context is key; the "in joke lingo" between friends is totally different, and judged on a different criteria than dialogue with different people or in different environments. But I think we can all agree in the context of THIS thread, both queer and breeder shouldn't be used. Agreed?
"We are Shakespeare. We are Michelangelo. We are Tchaikovsky. We are Turing. We are Mercury. We are Wilde. We are Lincoln, Lorca, Leonardo da Vinci. We are Alexander the Great. We are Fredrick the Great. We are Rustin. We are Addams. We are Marsha! Marsha Marsha Marsha! We so generous, we DeGeneres. We are Ziggy Stardust hooked to the silver screen. Controversially we are Malcolm X. We are Plato. We are Aristotle. We are RuPaul, god dammit! And yes, we are Woolf."
I don't think it should be used, yes. Although I do enjoy being uppity towards straight people.
Anyway it's a shame London spy didn't win any baftas. I'm still really looking forward to that
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/...b0b49df6a8970c
If you don't know what something means, look it up in the dictionary.
Which, reminds me that for all the screw ups and mess China is currently going through with gay rights and whether gay teens should be kissing in internet tv shows, it is really nice to live in a country that acknowledges transgender, transsexual, and intersex in both a more casual and more legally structured way than many. Plus, my ID gives me an easier way to "prove" intersex than answering invasive physiological questions. I can just point to the sex listed. "See? Yo."
That "keep asking what?" "then ask why" at the link cracks me up too much.
Patsy Walker on TV! Patsy Walker in new comics! Patsy Walker in your brain! And Jessica Jones is the new Nancy! (Oh, and read the Comics Cube.)
"We are Shakespeare. We are Michelangelo. We are Tchaikovsky. We are Turing. We are Mercury. We are Wilde. We are Lincoln, Lorca, Leonardo da Vinci. We are Alexander the Great. We are Fredrick the Great. We are Rustin. We are Addams. We are Marsha! Marsha Marsha Marsha! We so generous, we DeGeneres. We are Ziggy Stardust hooked to the silver screen. Controversially we are Malcolm X. We are Plato. We are Aristotle. We are RuPaul, god dammit! And yes, we are Woolf."
Patsy Walker on TV! Patsy Walker in new comics! Patsy Walker in your brain! And Jessica Jones is the new Nancy! (Oh, and read the Comics Cube.)
"We are Shakespeare. We are Michelangelo. We are Tchaikovsky. We are Turing. We are Mercury. We are Wilde. We are Lincoln, Lorca, Leonardo da Vinci. We are Alexander the Great. We are Fredrick the Great. We are Rustin. We are Addams. We are Marsha! Marsha Marsha Marsha! We so generous, we DeGeneres. We are Ziggy Stardust hooked to the silver screen. Controversially we are Malcolm X. We are Plato. We are Aristotle. We are RuPaul, god dammit! And yes, we are Woolf."