The LGBTQIA-community

[Silvermoth]

In my country congress has to debate 4 times before making a decision in this case is to change the constitution to allow adoption to LGBT couples and single people.

The came to the conclusion that a allowing people to vote would be for the best, which yes it bring some problems because well, a lot of the population still see that as a problem to the child.

Also is South America, no South Africa

Oh oops I have got to stop reading comments so fast lol. South America! Interesting!

[Charmed]

Was in an Uber yesterday and the driver is telling me about his girlfriend and how I will have to deal with something similar one day with a woman. I didn't bother telling me him he's wasting his time with that speech, but it reminded me that I am so sick of society's assumption that (most) people are straight until proven otherwise. First world problem, especially after earlier posts, but it's just something I wanted to unload.

[Silvermoth]

Yeah I hate that too although sometimes I enjoy putting them on the spot about it. At a wedding once a guy said that will be me one day and I said no it probably won't be. He said why, haven't found the right chick and I said "no, because it's illegal." The look on his face was priceless.

Is anyone watching Eurovision? So excited! I hope everything goes well. Also, I got my tickets for Wonder Woman

[Star_Jammer]

Was in an Uber yesterday and the driver is telling me about his girlfriend and how I will have to deal with something similar one day with a woman. I didn't bother telling me him he's wasting his time with that speech, but it reminded me that I am so sick of society's assumption that (most) people are straight until proven otherwise. First world problem, especially after earlier posts, but it's just something I wanted to unload.

I'll never understand getting upset over this. A little awkward feeling? Sure, maybe.

10% of people are left-handed. Is it really insulting to assume that anyone I randomly meet uses their right hand? An Uber driver, trying to make casual conversation? Yeah, he's not gonna evaluate every possible scenario of who you might date.

I personally find his insinuation that all women are the same, and that you'd have to deal with the same problems he is just by virtue of dating a different woman, to be a more problematic mindset.

[mojotastic]

Hey on the referendum i talked recently about adoption for LGBT and single people, today congress voted, the results just came in, it looks like we wont be needing a referendum after to all.

Which mean lgbt and single people can now adopt kids without worrying, so yay.

[Charmed]

Yeah I hate that too although sometimes I enjoy putting them on the spot about it. At a wedding once a guy said that will be me one day and I said no it probably won't be. He said why, haven't found the right chick and I said "no, because it's illegal." The look on his face was priceless.

I wish I could have been there to see that look. Sometimes I say things like, "No girls for me", or "I don't know what that's like", and they usually end the conversation right there.

Is anyone watching Eurovision? So excited! I hope everything goes well. Also, I got my tickets for Wonder Woman

I didn't get my tickets for Wonder Woman (not much of a premiere night person) but I do plan to see it in the theaters. I am soooo excited for that.

10% of people are left-handed. Is it really insulting to assume that anyone I randomly meet uses their right hand? An Uber driver, trying to make casual conversation? Yeah, he's not gonna evaluate every possible scenario of who you might date.

I didn't really feel insulted, just annoyed. He was a nice enough guy from my brief exposure to him, and I certainly did not expect him (or anyone else) to run through the scenarios of who I may date, or sleep with. It really wasn't him I was annoyed with, just the assumption, which is understandable due to the ratio of straight people to non-straight people. Idk, it's one of those things that shouldn't bother me, but, on some level, it does. I suppose it's just me being silly and irritable.

I personally find his insinuation that all women are the same, and that you'd have to deal with the same problems he is just by virtue of dating a different woman, to be a more problematic mindset.

That was something else I really wanted to check him on since I usually question guys who have that mindset of placing all women into a box, but we were right at the drop-off point, so I didn't have time to give my two cents.

[Silvermoth]

Hey on the referendum i talked recently about adoption for LGBT and single people, today congress voted, the results just came in, it looks like we wont be needing a referendum after to all.

Which mean lgbt and single people can now adopt kids without worrying, so yay.

Oh wow that's wonderful news! Congratulations, you must be feeling so relieved right now!

[Sugar Spun Sorceress]

Regarding LGBTQIA family rights, my partner and I have just started talking about (gestational) surrogacy. We are not that familiar with our state's surrogacy laws, so we have kind of been dreading the process of finding them out. This is usually when reality knocks us down again...

[mojotastic]

Oh wow that's wonderful news! Congratulations, you must be feeling so relieved right now!

Yep, glad the congress was able to see how important that was

[mojotastic]

Regarding LGBTQIA family rights, my partner and I have just started talking about (gestational) surrogacy. We are not that familiar with our state's surrogacy laws, so we have kind of been dreading the process of finding them out. This is usually when reality knocks us down again...

never give up! is the advice i can tell you

[NewMutant]

Apparently American Gods has a great gay sex scene. I haven't seen it; nor do I know the material. If anyone has a link let me know.

[legion_quest]

Apparently American Gods has a great gay sex scene. I haven't seen it; nor do I know the material. If anyone has a link let me know.

I've seen a lot of bitching about it, but have yet to see the episode. The first episode had a woman literally eat a man with her vagina, so turnabout is fair play

Side note, did everyone see the Tom Holland lip sync battle? It's pretty amazing, and while not at all confirmed real, I do like the shipping between him and his bff

[MasterOfMagnetism]

Apparently American Gods has a great gay sex scene. I haven't seen it; nor do I know the material. If anyone has a link let me know.

I haven't seen the show yet but a lot of people have said the scene is very intense and passionate and includes full-frontal male nudity.

[Kieran_Frost]

Harry Styles has delivered another "don't label me, girls, who hot guys, guys hot girls, what" vagueness about his sexuality. So... one step closer. I'm going to go look up that American Gods scene now

[Sugar Spun Sorceress]

never give up! is the advice i can tell you

Thank you.

And good luck to everyone who is thinking of starting a family. 💜

We were probably more nervous than we should've been, from what we can tell so far, legally we may not run into many problems in our state. That doesn't mean that people; even doctors, will treat us respectfully (we do live in a rural community).

This is a little more on what we are looking into:

"Reciprocal IVF is an advanced medical technique that enables both partners of a lesbian couple to physically participate in the pregnancy process and share a biological connection to their child.
First, eggs are removed from one partner and fertilized in the IVF lab. The embryo is then transferred to the other partner, whose uterus has been primed with hormone support.

To minimize complications, factors such as age, weight and health should be considered when determining which partner will carry the child to term and which will supply the egg."

The following article popped up during our internet searches, also about LGBTQIA families:

"Discrimination in Texas: House Passes Anti-LGBTQ Bill HB 3859
By Nick Morrow May 9, 2017
Today, HRC called out the Texas House of Representatives for passing HB 3859, a bill that would allow child welfare organizations -- including adoption and foster care agencies -- to discriminate against LGBTQ prospective parents and children in need of a loving, secure home. It could also lead to concrete harm to children in care; it would forbid the state from cancelling a state contract with an agency that subjected children in their care to dangerous practices such as so-called “conversion therapy.” HB 3859 is just the latest bill in a slate of anti-LGBTQ bills being pursued by the Texas legislature, which is undertaking a systematic effort to roll back the rights of LGBTQ Texans, piece by piece.

“HB 3859 is yet another example of Texas legislators’ coordinated efforts to pursue discrimination against LGBTQ people instead of focusing on the best interest of all Texans,” said Marty Rouse, national field director for the Human Rights Campaign, and an adoptive and foster parent. “If signed into law, this bill would most harm the children in Texas’ child welfare system -- kids who need a loving, stable home. Discrimination under law is unacceptable. The Senate must recognize this bill for what it is: an attempt to discriminate against LGBTQ Texans, this time targeting some of Texas’ most vulnerable residents: children in the child welfare system.”

HB 3859 would enshrine discrimination into Texas law by allowing discrimination in two directions: against prospective parents, and against children in their care. It would allow state contractors who provide child welfare services to discriminate against qualified same-sex couples who want to adopt. HB 3859 would allow child-placing agencies to turn away qualified Texans seeking to care for a child in need -- including LGBTQ couples, interfaith couples, single parents, married couples in which one prospective parent has previously been divorced, or other parents to whom the agency has a religious objection.

Child welfare organizations such as the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Counseling Association, the Child Welfare League of America, the National Association of School Psychologists, and the National Education Association have condemned similar bills. This most harms children in the system who are awaiting placement in qualified, loving homes and are instead forced to remain in care. Child welfare services should be guided by the overarching principle that guides all family law: all determinations should be in the “best interest of the child.” It isn’t in the best interest of a child to deny them a qualified, loving family simply because that family doesn’t share all of the tenets of the placing agency’s faith.

Further, this bill would have a significant and tremendously harmful impact on children in care. Additionally, HB 3859 would allow the agencies tasked by the state with caring for these children to put discrimination over the best interests of the child – they are allowed to refuse to provide services that children in care may desperately need, or subject children to care that is contrary to a child’s best interest. For example, this bill would allow an agency responsible for caring for LGBTQ youth to refer that child to a provider of the abusive, discredited practice of so-called “conversion therapy,” if that was consistent with the agency’s religious beliefs, without the state being able to intervene, cancel the contract, or withdraw support in other ways.

Research consistently shows that LGBTQ youth are overrepresented in the foster care system, as many have been rejected by their families of origin because of their LGBTQ status, and are especially vulnerable to discrimination and mistreatment while in foster care. HB 3859 will only exacerbate the challenges faced by LGBTQ young people.

HRC has seven field organizers in four offices across Texas who work to mobilize opposition to any anti-LGBTQ legislation. HRC continues to work alongside Equality Texas, ACLU of Texas, Texas Freedom Network, the Transgender Education Network of Texas and others on the ground to battle against dangerous or harmful bills that attack the dignity of LGBTQ Texans. As a coalition, we will stand together; we will support and comfort one another; and we will continue to work together until we defeat every bill this session that discriminates against LGBTQ Texans."

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