I would agree at the end of the day it all boils down to different life experiences. I'm looking at things through the lense of an Asexual Moralist. As someone who doesn't really have any interest in sexual intercourse it is hard for me to view it in the same way you do and any kinks/fetishes such as actually enjoying being objectified are just not within my field of vision so to speak. I understand the scientific reason fot sex as a means of reproduction and the emotional/psychological reason as a couple to become closer. But beyond that i just don't understand other "aspects" of that part of human life.
Also it sucks you had people say horrible things to you. People can be real jerks, you and your partner shouldn't have to put up with crap like that.
As for Sonic Youth, it does sound good. I'll google and give em a listen when I can.
But not to as get too of topic, my controversial opinion for today is that pie is better then cake.