And really, isnt that how it should be?
I dont like drawing lines in the sand and saying "Everything before 1986 never happened!" or "Everything before 2011, except the details we tell you about, never happened!"
Rebooting history is never a good idea. It complicates continuity, pisses off older fans, and causes problems that never go away no matter how many Zero Hours you have. I much prefer the mentality that you go all in, utilize everything at your disposal you want, ignore what you dont, and dont become so cemented to the past you cant move forward. A retcon and tweak here and there is to be expected, and generally doesnt amount to much in the wider narrative. Marvel's managed to keep their history in more or less working order like that, whereas us Super-fans are still arguing about post-Crisis thirty years after the fact, and a lot of us even came in during the late 80's, early 90's, when post-Crisis was at its Super-best.
Whether you call the current version a new one or not, to me he feels like a natural evolution of what came before. And not just post-Crisis; I can see the pre-Crisis guy becoming this Superdad too. He's still got enough pre-Crisis in him to make me believe that there was a time in his life when he enjoyed pranking Lois and making her run in circles trying to prove who Superman was, or that as a kid he had such wild adventures in the future everything he comes at now is just "Well, this is another Monday" and that's (partially) where his seemingly unshakable confidence comes from. And I can even see this being the same guy who, in his youth, threw gangsters off roof tops and basically said "Treat people right, Metropolis, or get a visit from me!" as a noble-hearted social crusader.