A few thoughts on your blog posts:
In the blog post you declare Daredevil and Batman as heroes who are "doing it right." Yet, Daredevil has suffered far more tragedy than Spider-Man through the course of his superhero existence. Not only do many of the villains know his secret identity, but many of his rogues also know that Daredevil is not a killer; thus they know they can get away with many things, safe with the knowledge that retaliation only comes in the usual broken ribs and jail sentence."This is because his tactics essentially guarantee that he will be a target, his loved ones will suffer, and his enemies will become stronger as a result."
Pictured above, a man who clearly gives zero f---s
This also happens to Batman on multiple occasions (Barbara Gordon, Jason Todd, Steph Brown, Commissioner Gordon's wife) Even with a secret identity, anyone tangentially associated with Batman still becomes a victim.
Spider-Man is plenty intimidating (Titania was paralyzed with fear, Doc Ock developed arachnophobia for a time, Beetle was terrified of him in an issue) When Spidey cut loose during the "Origin of the Species" story line super villains were skipping town or turning themselves into the police for protection!"Spider-Man, unlike Batman or Daredevil, doesn’t present a very intimidating presence. He’s many things, but intimidating isn’t one of them. His costume isn’t that intimidating. He doesn’t operate in the shadows or anything."