She doesn't have to be "sassy" 24/7. She just has to feel like HER. Several of those scenes that people critiqued could have been adjusted even slightly to be more in character for HER and for the context of their marriage dynamic. It wouldn't even have taken a huge change. Having Clark more consistently serving the food with her (as Jurgens has been better at) would have changed the context of scene. Telling Jon to get up and help because he's got two hands would have changed it. Some of this stuff may seem small to you guys but it can have a big impact on how gender dynamics are felt and perceived.
Look, I don't think we should have to defend asking that they are thoughtful in how they writes her issue to issue. The goal is that we want a book that reflects an understanding of who these people are and that can come into play even with mundane tasks. It's ok to ask for better when it comes to an office that employs no women is writing such an important woman! They should want to improve. I'm rooting for them to keep up this good work and I want to be encouraging.