Originally Posted by
Arctic Cyclist
That's more of Tom King and DC/WB deciding to sabotage ships in order to push BatCat as the OTP. If you remember from "Death and the Maidens" Martha Wayne was not only a BruTalia shipper, like the O-Sensei in Detective Comics Annual 1, she points out that only way Bruce could be happy, fulfilled, and balance all aspects of his life is to marry Talia.
Martha also crippled Selina in Flashpoint, who Thomas used as his version of Oracle so there's clearly some differences of opinions there. I think we're also supposed to catch the differences between Thomas and Bruce while at the same time the similarities between Bruce and Ra's: Thomas never attempted to bring his son back to life, Ra's gave up his life so that Talia would live, and has a history of making sacrifices of potential lifespan for his various children. Going back to the discussion of toxic masculinity, this is a good example of a contrast between tender and toxic: Ra's, ironically, with his focus on his children and friends, is tender masculinity whereas Thomas and Bruce by focusing strictly on their romantic/sexual relationships are toxic masculinity. By having Selina show up instead of Damian (who would have been the choice of many other writers, not just Tomasi), we continue to see the priority in promoting toxic masculinity that is the culture at DC.
In fact, any of Bruce's friends and allies besides Selina would have been a better choice and more grounded in the characters' history, but what can we say? We're living in a dystopian world now where Batman picks sex over family and Thomas Wayne has become an abusive monster.