I agree with you on just about every front here but....It wouldn't be fair if I didn't point out that Damian going to hell after he died was set up in Gleason's solo book. If I recall, that's what made him go on that "year of redemption" journey in the first place.
The only difference is that, in R:SOB, I always thought it could have been interpreted as just a bad dream. Whereas with Glass, he pretty much confirms that it wasn't.
That said, it still does send a really horrible message that, after everything he'd been through, he couldn't even find peace in death.