Sorry to hear it.
I blame the writers. As for Jean, I liked her in Morrison’s run. But since Phoenix Resurrection, she became a big no for me. Just too perfect for my taste.
Also, I'm not a hardcore scemma shipper, but I liked Cyclops of those days when he was with Emma. I don't mind if he hooks up with another woman, as long as he remains the character I loved. With Jean, it seems impossible.