Not the same.
One, given the way ASM sells, it'd be like if The Simpsons was still a Top Ten show thirty years in - not just a show with a devoted core audience.
Two, the continued high quality of ASM is often cited. Slott's run is frequently hailed as one of the defining runs for the character. So, it's common to hear fans and critics praise the last ten years of Spidey. Not just "Well, it used to be good a long time ago but it's still around, you know, because..."
And Three, that slam would have been far more fitting thirty years into ASM's own history, when it was languishing in the doldrums of the mid-'90s, prior to the creative comeback of the JMS era.
A lot of fans would argue that Brand New Day was a refreshing shot in the arm for the book, as was the proper beginning of the solo Slott era, Big Time.
Given that you've said that writers who don't believe in the marriage shouldn't be writing Spider-Man and that the only way forward is to reinstate the marriage and that anything else is uncreative, I think it's safe to say you have a very myopic view of what Spider-Man should be. Luckily, you have the old timey newspaper strip and - for now, at least - Renew Your Vows to scratch that nostalgic itch for you.