I assume you're going by his explanation in Uncanny X-men 600, as he hasn't really talked about his coming to terms with it in his solo besides his conversation with Kitty. The thing he says is that he didn't want to be gay and a mutant because of the stigma associated with each, and while there wasn't really a way to change him being a mutant, he figured by repressing himself that he could change the way he felt, and that maybe he could be straight eventually if he kept believing it and keeping the thoughts out of his head. I'm paraphrasing of course but that was the gist of it. It wasn't so much toying with women's affections as it was wanting to be "normal" so to speak, and thinking he could change. Also, we don't know what point it was that he truly knew, and which past relationships had already happened or not, especially with comic book time. We don't actually know what his own definition of "knowing" even is, since he only implied that, in the convo with young Bobby. It's also worth pointing out as you may know that he has a bit of a history of repressing things, from his own potential of his powers, to actually making himself think he lost his powers after M-day when he never did.
As far as his relatability goes, yes I'm sure a lot of guys have related to his struggles in dating and relationships, I'm definitely aware of that. But so far, that aspect hasn't really changed, he's still as awful at flirting as ever
Oh and no problem about the late post!