56% of Wonder Woman's audience was female, so it wasn't relying upon the male demo for action movies.
Btw, your point is rather confusing - you want to know why men won't go see female led movies, but when female led movies succeed, you discount them because men like them?
As to women led action movies that scored over 200 million ?
Captain Marvel - $1,128,275,263
Alice in Wonderland - $1,025,467,110
Hunger Games Catching Fire - $865,011,746
Wonder Woman - $821,847,012
Maleficent - $758,410,378
Hunger Games Mockingjay Part 1 - $755,356,711
Hunger Games - $694,394,724
Hunger Games Mockingjay Part 2 - $658,344,137
Maleficent 2 - $491,730,089
Bumblebee - $467,989,645
Lucy - $458,863,600
Alita Battle Angel - $404,852,543
Mad Max Fury Road - $375,211,079
The Golden Compass - $372,234,864
Salt - $293,503,394
Lara Croft: Tomb Raider - $273,703,394
Tomb Raider - $274,470,394
Charlie's Angels - $264,105,545
Charlie's Angels Full Throttle - $259,175,788
There's more, but I'm bored
Oh, and that's leaving off the big ones:
Frozen - $1,280,803,156
Frozen 2 - $1,450,026,933
Not to mention Brave, Moana, Mulan, etc.
So...in summary:
Your claim that 'many male movies are rubbish and don't fail' vs '99% of female movies fail' is incorrect as per the top 100 list I presented earlier.
There have been a grand total to date of 5 female led superhero films - Supergirl, Catwoman, Elektra, Wonder Woman, Captain Marvel. Hardly a huge sample size to base this on. The fact that when one fails the studios wait 10-20 years before making another one proves my point.
Btw, Elektra broke even at the box office. It cost (before marketing) 43,000,000 and it made 57,000,000. Not a money-maker, but not technically a flop, either
Supergirl was a weird one. It was only released in the UK and the US and I couldn't find its budget anywhere. Oddly, the big stars (Peter O'Toole and Faye Dunaway) won Raspberries, but Helen Slater won a Saturn Award.
Oh, and Birds of Prey broke 200,000,000 on an 85,000,000 budget, so that makes 2 flops, one break even, and 3 successes for female led superhero films. I'm thinking that average will go up with Black Widow and WW84, but I'm not sure how badly Covid is going to screw up the box office.
I'm a woman and I generally hate chick flicks. So do many of my female friends, but my husband likes them. Pigeon-holing movie-goers by gender is a bad idea. Successful movies appeal to all genders. Twilight was something like 80/20 female to male, but Avengers Endgame? Far from being the opposite was 58/42.
In other words, it wouldn't have been nearly as successful if it weren't for the women who saw it, and please don't come back with 'but they just went to see it with their boyfriends.' Every one of my female friends who saw it wanted to see it.
So, in summary:
1. Female led action movies can be highly successful.
2. Plenty of female led action movies have made more than $200,000,000
3. Studios have traditionally refused to give female superheroes the opportunities they've given male superheroes (by a huge margin). It took WB 20 years to try a second one (and their answer to 'how to we save the female superhero film' was Catwoman? Really?) and it took Marvel 14 years to try again after Elektra broke even.
4. Men and women like female led action movies.