Originally Posted by
Skedatz
There's a bit to unpack here.
Steve did it in service of a goal. His feelings were he himself, as a regular soldier, was expendable like all soldiers are. It was his job and duty to ensure that he did everything within his power to prevent the weapon from making landfall. In duty of that he killed himself because it was the "heroic" or "right" thing to do. In this act he had character self-agency like a regular superhero to make that choice.
The concept of fridging is a little bit different where a character is often created to be killed by a villain to give the hero drama and resolve for the conflict ahead, or sometimes skin in the game at all. They may be "underperforming," until the death of a loved one spurns them on to become a better hero. Basically making the writer some sort of reverse Reverse Flash where in an effort to give the hero weight they use a cheap kill. Steve was not that because the movie wasn't built up of Wonder Woman needing to protect or avenge Steve, and in the end she didn't. In the end his death was seen as an unwanted loss in the greater conflict while she maintained her vows as an Amazon.
If Steve were to be "fridged," it would've been a little closer to the beginning or middle of the film where Ares shows up to kill Steve personally (or through a roundabout way) to get to Diana and therefore put the fire in her to finish the fight.
These are very clearly different concepts.
However, you're partially correct that men being the primary narrative focus for comics is a big part of it but that only reinforces why it's considered a negative female trope. Since comics viewed females are expendable emotional fodder while men were meant to take up the sword and avenge them it sets women in an inherently negative light. It's not that it couldn't happen to men, it's just we are waaaaay more likely to do it to women because that's sort of how society set it up. Women are frail and prone to dying, men are strong and will avenge them.
Maybe not that much to unpack. It's really not that complex of a subject I guess.
Appealing to history isn't necessarily the best way to case your point. Just because it was okay or acceptable or even lauded at one time doesn't mean we can't or shouldn't improve our understanding and talent for handling the situation today. That's the exact argument once used for when people complained about how Asian people were represented in comics. Some fans would claim the decades of treating them as a "yellow menace" meant it was an acceptable practice before, so why not now? It's not like an appeal to history can't be done right, but only if said history can reinforce your claim and not lead to a situation where very similar subjects came back with negative results for your claim. Also refer to black representation in comics and other media for talk about handling subsections of culture regarding tropes and presentation.