Actually, I re-read what Priest had to say, and there are a few elements that people may have missed. Here's a relevant bit, with my emphasis:
"Joe and Jimmy just thought it'd be cool to have Panther travel with a pair of 6-foot tall gorgeous women, and I certainly agreed, but the order of the Dora Milaje, a
kind of nun/wife-in-training deal, gave us a foot in both of the worlds the Panther struggled to maintain peace between: the modern and the tribal."
In the Priest run, T'Challa also served as head of the Panther religion, so the idea of "Brides of Bast" actually makes a sort of sense. We aren't talking about a harem, here... if the DM are nuns of a sort, the vows are more spiritual... dedicating onesself to the cult of Bast, as embodied in the Panther.
Unless, of course, you are a hormonal teenager with attachment issues.
I would argue that Coates DID throw out the baby with the bathwater, by having so many of the Dora Milaje go rogue. I think he cared less about making the DM more palatable, and more about his cultural agenda. Coogler did a MUCH better job, which may be why Okoye is getting a push, and Aneka isn't.